I lived in a metropolitan, fast-paced city for twenty-six years, I was quite a " busy, busy, busy bee" in graduate school. As I completed 15-18 hours in just one semester, worked 3/4 of the time, and traveled to New York, St. Louis and Indiana in one year, I learned the value of 'multitasking' . I mastered this skill over the years, and became a professional multitask-er.
Did I have any margin in life? not a bit...my schedule was crammed each day; there was no space for emergencies much less for rest.
As I grew older and built a closer relationship with the Lord, I changed in various ways.
Exodus 16:30 "So the people rested on the seventh day."
Today, I am much more conscientious about rest. His ways are better than mine without a doubt. Even though I continue to multitask and do it efficiently, I learned the value in resting in Him in the mornings, afternoons, evenings, weekends, holidays... anytime.
When I get rest, I am able to...
make better decisions,
reflect on challenging circumstances,
be creative with personal time,
feel refreshed in the mornings,
handle stress efficiently,
maintain self-control in the midst of chaos,
enjoy a meal with a friend,
play with feline companions,
be discerning,
laugh more often,
and most importantly maintain a joyful lifestyle.
Saturday, August 28, 2010
Wednesday, August 25, 2010
Eat, Pray and Love
In 'Eat, Pray, and Love' movie, Julia Roberts portrayed the role of a divorced woman who was desperately in search of herself when she visited three distant countries. Throughout Roberts' travels, she embraced a journey of healing, and spiritual growth. She recaptured passion and joy in life.
It takes a lot of courage to embark on an unknown journey for a year, and let go of one's familiar surroundings and lifestyle. The thought of learning a language and cultural differences, and settling in a foreign country may be nerve wracking at first yet the adventure brings unforgettable experiences!
"Do I need to travel overseas so I may have joy in life?"
Charles Swindoll discussed the importance of choosing joy regardless of extraneous circumstances. Swindoll (1992) highlighted the three joy thieves in his book titled 'Laugh Again'; worry (the what if's), stress (intolerable circumstances) and fear (dreadful thoughts). Guess what?! These joy thieves travel overseas regardless of time and place.
Phillipians 4:8 "Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable - if anything is excellent or praiseworthy- think about such things"
Each time I redirect the internal dialogue to what's is pure and noble, I become much more joyful during the day... there is no need to travel overseas for a year!
It takes a lot of courage to embark on an unknown journey for a year, and let go of one's familiar surroundings and lifestyle. The thought of learning a language and cultural differences, and settling in a foreign country may be nerve wracking at first yet the adventure brings unforgettable experiences!
"Do I need to travel overseas so I may have joy in life?"
Charles Swindoll discussed the importance of choosing joy regardless of extraneous circumstances. Swindoll (1992) highlighted the three joy thieves in his book titled 'Laugh Again'; worry (the what if's), stress (intolerable circumstances) and fear (dreadful thoughts). Guess what?! These joy thieves travel overseas regardless of time and place.
Phillipians 4:8 "Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable - if anything is excellent or praiseworthy- think about such things"
Each time I redirect the internal dialogue to what's is pure and noble, I become much more joyful during the day... there is no need to travel overseas for a year!
Sunday, August 22, 2010
The Last Song
The storyline dealt with reconciliation and forgiveness. As the drama unfolded, a strained 'father-daughter' relationship was restored.The truth prevailed.
Dad and I were always drawn to music. He aspired for me to be a concert pianist at a young age. Dad envisioned himself traveling around the world with me as a performer...was delighted to hear me practice each morning before sunrise, paid for extra lessons and encouraged music full-time!
I never fulfilled dad's dream although each time I sit in front of the keyboard, my passion for a variety of music continues to grow each day.
1 Peter 4: 10 "Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others, faithfully administering God's grace in its various forms"
I recently realized how dad's memory is deteriorating each day...he is no longer able to recall who in the family plays the piano. I would enjoy playing the piano once again in my folks' living room!... just like a 13 years old , school girl dressed in a pleaded skirt, blue shirt and brown moccasins committed to practice before sunrise...
Who knows?!
Renting a piano for a weekend and surprising dad on my next trip to Florida sounds like an awesome dream to me... Hopefully, it will not be our Last Song.
Tuesday, August 17, 2010
The Impact of Words
Some words are nurturing, uplifting, or optimistic in nature.These words contribute to one's life. Other words may be critical, life altering or negative in nature, and can destroy relationships or be fatal to someone's future.
One's reaction or choice is pivotal. Boundaries in relationships may need to be redefined when trust is breached. Reconciliation is beneficial or may not be safe to consider. Forgiveness is undoubtedly the next step.
'You will never amount to anything in life' a high school guidance counselor shared with me in a brief conversation regarding college admission. Even though this life-altering comment was made in freshman year, I chose not to be discouraged throughout high school years. I carefully selected an influential network during graduate school. These friendships tend to be long-lasting and continue to grow each day.
"You are ridiculous" a dear friend of mine stated one summer afternoon when plans were rearranged. I chose not to overreact when confronted with critical remarks much less internalize the adjective.
Relying on network's fleeting opinion or volatile comment may be detrimental to emotional well-being.
The Truth is that "I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well."
Psalm 139:14
An encouraging, trustworthy friend or family member is indeed valuable! Having this exceptional individual in our lives, it's a legitimate blessing. The value of encouragement is irreplaceable, and has a profound, long-term impact in one's life.
How do I know when a friend or family is being encouraging, positive or influential?
I'm forever grateful for dad's 'cheer leading' tendencies. Dad was the perfect model of an 'encourager', and will always be remembered. Unfortunately, dad is no longer able to carry out social conversations; he has been battling Parkinson's Disease for over two decades.
Memories are cherished in my heart today and always!
My wise dad refrained from name-calling or abusive remarks...he would confront me when I was wrong yet cared enough to share constructive comments. He would suggest how to solve challenging situations, and highlighted personal strengths.
'You are using time wisely...go ahead and go to school instead of working so much...you may need to cut back in your social life a bit...' my loving dad would say.
Dad celebrated college highlights on a regular basis, 'great job for finishing up with your qualifying exams this semester' . I vividly remember graduation day, the warmth of his hugs and the joy of tears.
No wonder I was able to accomplish so much in the past! Today, I continue overcoming disappointments one day at a time.
Contributory networks need to be selected carefully; the quality needs to be evaluated one season at a time.
Is the network encouraging, empowering and influential? It makes a difference in one's life particularly during hardships.
One's reaction or choice is pivotal. Boundaries in relationships may need to be redefined when trust is breached. Reconciliation is beneficial or may not be safe to consider. Forgiveness is undoubtedly the next step.
'You will never amount to anything in life' a high school guidance counselor shared with me in a brief conversation regarding college admission. Even though this life-altering comment was made in freshman year, I chose not to be discouraged throughout high school years. I carefully selected an influential network during graduate school. These friendships tend to be long-lasting and continue to grow each day.
"You are ridiculous" a dear friend of mine stated one summer afternoon when plans were rearranged. I chose not to overreact when confronted with critical remarks much less internalize the adjective.
Relying on network's fleeting opinion or volatile comment may be detrimental to emotional well-being.
The Truth is that "I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well."
Psalm 139:14
An encouraging, trustworthy friend or family member is indeed valuable! Having this exceptional individual in our lives, it's a legitimate blessing. The value of encouragement is irreplaceable, and has a profound, long-term impact in one's life.
How do I know when a friend or family is being encouraging, positive or influential?
I'm forever grateful for dad's 'cheer leading' tendencies. Dad was the perfect model of an 'encourager', and will always be remembered. Unfortunately, dad is no longer able to carry out social conversations; he has been battling Parkinson's Disease for over two decades.
Memories are cherished in my heart today and always!
My wise dad refrained from name-calling or abusive remarks...he would confront me when I was wrong yet cared enough to share constructive comments. He would suggest how to solve challenging situations, and highlighted personal strengths.
'You are using time wisely...go ahead and go to school instead of working so much...you may need to cut back in your social life a bit...' my loving dad would say.
Dad celebrated college highlights on a regular basis, 'great job for finishing up with your qualifying exams this semester' . I vividly remember graduation day, the warmth of his hugs and the joy of tears.
No wonder I was able to accomplish so much in the past! Today, I continue overcoming disappointments one day at a time.
Contributory networks need to be selected carefully; the quality needs to be evaluated one season at a time.
Is the network encouraging, empowering and influential? It makes a difference in one's life particularly during hardships.
Monday, August 9, 2010
Greek Islands, Bora Bora or Alaska?!
Dancing Zumba, writing in a blog, praying for family members in convoluted circumstances, turning 'off' the phone ringer, having a lunch date, reconnecting with a trustworthy friend, taking an afternoon nap on Sunday, feeding feline companions, saying 'no'....are just a few ways to let the soul rest in the midst of a stormy season!
How much more can I take Lord? He reminds me of His presence each day...
"When you pass through the water, I will be with you. And through the rivers, they shall not overflow you. When you walk through the fire, you shall not be burned, nor shall the flame scorch you, for I am the Lord your God" Isaiah 43:2-3.
Why manipulate life circumstances?
Anxiety-provoking thoughts and irrational fears are binding and leads to helplessness, and despair.
I pray for strength one minute at a time. The Lord's presence in the here-and-now is priceless. Surrendering and trusting in Christ alone have led to an unexpected, unforgettable journey so far. Blessings unfold each day!
God creates a master blueprint for the future, and orchestrates 'unforseen even elusive' circumstances for a greater purpose. The Lord is in control.
Let the soul sail away to the Greek Islands, Bora Bora, or even Alaska...
How much more can I take Lord? He reminds me of His presence each day...
"When you pass through the water, I will be with you. And through the rivers, they shall not overflow you. When you walk through the fire, you shall not be burned, nor shall the flame scorch you, for I am the Lord your God" Isaiah 43:2-3.
Why manipulate life circumstances?
Anxiety-provoking thoughts and irrational fears are binding and leads to helplessness, and despair.
I pray for strength one minute at a time. The Lord's presence in the here-and-now is priceless. Surrendering and trusting in Christ alone have led to an unexpected, unforgettable journey so far. Blessings unfold each day!
God creates a master blueprint for the future, and orchestrates 'unforseen even elusive' circumstances for a greater purpose. The Lord is in control.
Let the soul sail away to the Greek Islands, Bora Bora, or even Alaska...
Saturday, August 7, 2010
Dating in a fast-paced world!
Being a single, career woman is a challenge!
On-line, speed dating and fast-paced 'electronically-connected' lifestyles distort the process of a healthy relationship. There is no way to detect discrepancies in character over the Internet much less in smart phones.
Where did romance go? infatuation may fog the realities of a relationship.
I pray each day for a husband whose heart is pure and trustworthy. Waiting for true love to blossom takes time, it may even take a lifetime. 'And now these three remain; faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love', 1 Corinthians 13:13 (NIV).
Developmentally, our priorities change over time and the focus in life is edged...dating in the 20s may differ from the 40s.
In the twenties, appearance, spiritual growth, career goals and family plans may be relevant.
Later on, spiritual connectedness, financial stability, emotional well-being and family network are critical issues.
Dating is an opportunity to get to know someone without the commitment of a long-term relationship.
"Will I ever fall in love again?" I ask myself repeatedly. I no longer gaze at this issue.
Building a friendship is key. Learning more about each other's family heritage, social network, likes/dislikes, hobbies, career path, and financial aspirations will show if there is compatibility.
If there is compatibility, then a deeper friendship will evolve over time.
Dependability and honesty are key ingredients in a friendship.
On-line, speed dating and fast-paced 'electronically-connected' lifestyles distort the process of a healthy relationship. There is no way to detect discrepancies in character over the Internet much less in smart phones.
Where did romance go? infatuation may fog the realities of a relationship.
I pray each day for a husband whose heart is pure and trustworthy. Waiting for true love to blossom takes time, it may even take a lifetime. 'And now these three remain; faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love', 1 Corinthians 13:13 (NIV).
Developmentally, our priorities change over time and the focus in life is edged...dating in the 20s may differ from the 40s.
In the twenties, appearance, spiritual growth, career goals and family plans may be relevant.
Later on, spiritual connectedness, financial stability, emotional well-being and family network are critical issues.
Dating is an opportunity to get to know someone without the commitment of a long-term relationship.
"Will I ever fall in love again?" I ask myself repeatedly. I no longer gaze at this issue.
Building a friendship is key. Learning more about each other's family heritage, social network, likes/dislikes, hobbies, career path, and financial aspirations will show if there is compatibility.
If there is compatibility, then a deeper friendship will evolve over time.
Dependability and honesty are key ingredients in a friendship.
Tuesday, August 3, 2010
'She Speaks' 2010 conference
This weekend was a fast roller-coaster ride filled with mixed emotions!.... excitement, sadness, anger, helplessness, frustration...joy, hope and peace.
I visited Charlotte, North Carolina for less than 36 hours. I had registered for "She Speaks" conference sponsored by Proverbs 31 organization. Hotel reservation and transportation arrangements were made, classes were selected, and work schedule rearranged.
As soon as I sat down in the general session, I felt at ease in making new connections among potential writers in the Christian world. There were at least 600 women waiting anxiously to worship the Lord. As soon as Cheri Keaggy played the electronic keyboard, I quickly focused all my attention to Jesus, embraced his peace and surrendered doubt and fear .
Different classes were offered at "She Speaks" this year from 'magazine article writing 101' to building a platform. Sessions were facilitated by published authors, articulate speakers and reputable editors. The conference had an enjoyable yet well-structured agenda filled with worship music, prize giveaways, three-course meals, networking opportunities, interviews with publishing companies, panel for group discussion, and a variety of instruction about the realities of the writing market.
There are two truths about 'writing'; it is a discipline in which skills develop over time with consistent practice, and it takes perseverance to unlock 'dry' seasons.
By the end of the first night at the conference, I was contacted by one of my dad's caregivers who shared unwanted news! ...
Dad's blood pressure had dropped to mid-30s, and skin color had turned purple prior to the arrival of the paramedics. He was rushed to Aventura hospital. On his way to the emergency room, dad said his first and last name upon verbal prompting once his blood pressure raised to 108.
Praise the Lord!
Dad was stabilized by the time he arrived to the E.R. Doctors recommended an overnight stay for observation and medical tests including a C.A.T scan and M.R.I.
Mom was shopping with my nieces at the time of dad's emergency, sister was celebrating her 28th anniversary in Aruba, brother was nowhere to be found, and I was praising the Lord in Charlotte.
Life 'just happens'! it unfolds abruptly...
"There is nothing wrong with your dad" mom repeatedly said when I arrived to the hospital room 2 days later. Mom's sense of guilt was noticeable at the time of contact. She would have liked to assist dad during the crisis. "Would she have been capable of doing so?" I kept asking myself throughout the challenging weekend. Mom was confused, overwhelmed and in distress. Later, mom said " I didn't get to witness the incident ...I doubt anything took place" standing right in front of dad's hospital bed. Mom was in total denial then.
I trust God and respect the way he orchestrates life circumstances.
When the doctor diagnosed dad with seizure disorder, urinary tract infection, enlarged prostate, mom was non-reactive. She was unwilling to follow medical recommendations during the first 72 hrs. due to her state of denial.
With family support and patience, mom was able to regroup, and soon realized the importance of medical care. I prayed for mom to keep an open mind and an ability to embrace dad's medical needs after hospitalization.
We were all in distress but each one of us helped each other out as best as we could.
As I walked towards the airline check-in kiosk, doctor discharged dad from the hospital with home-health care as part of his discharge plan. Daddy and I were both on our way home... looking forward to a more quiet evening.
Today, I thank the Lord for his unconditional love this weekend...
I was able to make 'last minute' travel arrangements, had the strength to manage mom's denial, and maintained hope for the future.
I visited Charlotte, North Carolina for less than 36 hours. I had registered for "She Speaks" conference sponsored by Proverbs 31 organization. Hotel reservation and transportation arrangements were made, classes were selected, and work schedule rearranged.
As soon as I sat down in the general session, I felt at ease in making new connections among potential writers in the Christian world. There were at least 600 women waiting anxiously to worship the Lord. As soon as Cheri Keaggy played the electronic keyboard, I quickly focused all my attention to Jesus, embraced his peace and surrendered doubt and fear .
Different classes were offered at "She Speaks" this year from 'magazine article writing 101' to building a platform. Sessions were facilitated by published authors, articulate speakers and reputable editors. The conference had an enjoyable yet well-structured agenda filled with worship music, prize giveaways, three-course meals, networking opportunities, interviews with publishing companies, panel for group discussion, and a variety of instruction about the realities of the writing market.
There are two truths about 'writing'; it is a discipline in which skills develop over time with consistent practice, and it takes perseverance to unlock 'dry' seasons.
By the end of the first night at the conference, I was contacted by one of my dad's caregivers who shared unwanted news! ...
Dad's blood pressure had dropped to mid-30s, and skin color had turned purple prior to the arrival of the paramedics. He was rushed to Aventura hospital. On his way to the emergency room, dad said his first and last name upon verbal prompting once his blood pressure raised to 108.
Praise the Lord!
Dad was stabilized by the time he arrived to the E.R. Doctors recommended an overnight stay for observation and medical tests including a C.A.T scan and M.R.I.
Mom was shopping with my nieces at the time of dad's emergency, sister was celebrating her 28th anniversary in Aruba, brother was nowhere to be found, and I was praising the Lord in Charlotte.
Life 'just happens'! it unfolds abruptly...
"There is nothing wrong with your dad" mom repeatedly said when I arrived to the hospital room 2 days later. Mom's sense of guilt was noticeable at the time of contact. She would have liked to assist dad during the crisis. "Would she have been capable of doing so?" I kept asking myself throughout the challenging weekend. Mom was confused, overwhelmed and in distress. Later, mom said " I didn't get to witness the incident ...I doubt anything took place" standing right in front of dad's hospital bed. Mom was in total denial then.
I trust God and respect the way he orchestrates life circumstances.
When the doctor diagnosed dad with seizure disorder, urinary tract infection, enlarged prostate, mom was non-reactive. She was unwilling to follow medical recommendations during the first 72 hrs. due to her state of denial.
With family support and patience, mom was able to regroup, and soon realized the importance of medical care. I prayed for mom to keep an open mind and an ability to embrace dad's medical needs after hospitalization.
We were all in distress but each one of us helped each other out as best as we could.
As I walked towards the airline check-in kiosk, doctor discharged dad from the hospital with home-health care as part of his discharge plan. Daddy and I were both on our way home... looking forward to a more quiet evening.
Today, I thank the Lord for his unconditional love this weekend...
I was able to make 'last minute' travel arrangements, had the strength to manage mom's denial, and maintained hope for the future.
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