Emotional purity is an ability to focus on the realities of current circumstances, and to refrain from visualizing the future of a relationship prior to engagement.
The truth is "above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it" Proverbs 4:23.
Character unfolds over time and relationship matures one day at a time. Relationship fantasies deceive the heart, creates confusion and leads to a vulnerable mind-set.
"Would you like to change your last name?", "It would be nice to have classical music in our wedding reception?", these were relevant comments made by Prince Charming during the first month of dating.
He waltzed into my life and I followed his lead unconditionally!
Because Prince Charming initiated relationship fantasies, I soon visualized a lifetime with him and his children. He explored unlimited possibilities for a future together. "We are the perfect match!" I repeatedly shared with friends.
I envisioned myself moving to the country without hesitation. I was mesmerized by his strengths; strong work ethics, and a compassionate heart. Within forty-five days, an initial bond was created with his children, and a family vacation planned and well-executed. Unforgettable memories were authored.
I never took the time to establish boundaries much less recognize the truth of current circumstances. We were both engrossed in the future...
Prince Charming was embracing a new career opportunity, and singleness. I never questioned his readiness for commitment in the midst of recent transition.
My world turned upside down overnight when he walked away! I was in shock for weeks... my heart grieved for months and was quite vulnerable thereafter.
How could he not be ready for a relationship? I ignored the reality of his circumstances... he was recently divorced! It takes time to heal from divorce, and wisdom to handle post-divorce issues effectively.
Timing plays a critical role in dating without a doubt!
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